Why do I loathe network marketing and friendship evangelism? It makes me feel isolated, like I really am the only one.
Nothing depresses me more than unrelenting poverty. When I have done my best, beat the streets, thought of every angle (and it is acknowledged I think too much) – and I don’t know where the rent is coming from at the end of the month – or even where my next full meal is coming from, I am more ready to throw in the towel than at any other time. Relentless bills. Poverty.
At this end of the rope phase, I consider all the possibilities, I put the word out to friends and family that I am job-hunting. An old family friend calls, “We have a job opportunity where I work. Come by the office and see me.” It sounds entry level, but I am ready to do anything. I will wash dishes, clean toilets, take out the trash before I will go delinquent on my bills, be homeless, or especially before I will use my piano for firewood.
I arrive at the appointed time. There are pleasantries of getting to know each other once again. Then my friend introduces a way to add to my income; a plan by which I can make money by sharing a multi-level marketing plan.
Can we have a sincere relationship, please? Okay, I know you brought me here to share a good thing with me, not to give you a lesson in logic, but consider this: Your product saves money only if I have been using the most expensive services out there. I am already as frugal as common sense can make me.
Many of these plans are wonderful for making extra money – particularly if they are products you buy anyway and you are essentially co-oping. But, if hard times are already standing so close to your door you have eliminated toothpaste or hair conditioner or food from your budget, you are not looking for a way to earn extra money, you need immediate basic money. The secret is not in a better budget, or better product. The secret is earning money to budget.
You see, I already have a way to earn extra money – it is called persistent music and writing. If I devote as much time and effort to music gigs and free-lance writing jobs as it would take to make cold calls and pursue old friends long forgotten (only for the sake of recruiting them); I assure you, I will make as much extra money working my passion as I would working your multi-level program.
With regard to friendship evangelists and net-work marketers; I am sad. I really wanted your friendship and friendship is something you didn’t think to give me until you had a money motive or an honor and reputation motive. You saw me as an opportunity for another notch in your belt.
And now, I am done ranting about the disappointments, shame, isolation; and the used and discarded feeling of Friendship Evangelism and Net-Work Marketing.
Next posts: some friendship networking that builds genuine lifelong friendships.
Burt, you are such a kind and generous individual. I thank you for your interest in my circumstances.
Things are looking up! Full time job on the horizon.
One thing I hope I never do is forget these hard times – forget how it felt – because I never want to make someone else feel isolated, or disappointed or used and discarded or shamed. I want to help – without enabling in an unhealthy way.
WoW,,, Cherry,,, is this your real status that of poverty???? Unbelieveable at this point in ur life with 3 grown children, and such a creative mind with such assertive and positive personality. If so, as I mentioned before, I’d be honored to assist you. I already consider you as one of my top friends, even though we’ve known each just short time. I already know you’re a very precious individual indeed. Knew that the 1st few moments I met you in the visitors center. I’ll be so pleased to support you any way I’m able. Love to talk with you. I feel I already know a lot about you just from your and your childrens photos…..Now Cherry, that short story of “The Bed” is a real gem as many people can relate including me. You say it’s in work. I’m eager to read more when ready. I remember in my youth I built a tree house and always dreamed of bed therein just as you described. Maybe you able to publish it along with other short stories? Anxiously standing by for your reply. Burt
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